There are many people around the world stuck in abusive relationships. Statistics show that one in three women and one in four men have been in an abusive relationship. No one deserves to be treated badly by the ones they love, moreover, it is also very difficult for women and men to leave due to various reasons.

The main reasons why people stay are:

1. Financial Dependence
2. Fear of the abuse getting worse
3. Believing the person will change
4. Emotional attachment
5. Not wanting to raise the children alone

Everyone deserves to lead a happy and healthy life. If one is in an abusive relationship they need to be motivated to leave and to gain the confidence to leave to start a better life one has to follow these few stages.

1. The first stage is for the person being abused to believe and realize they deserve better for themselves. They need to look at the advantages of leaving which are self-empowerment, freedom, breaking the cycle of violence, and being a good example to the children if any.
2. The second stage would be preparation. They should be able to create an action plan for their own safety and safety of the children if there are any. It is important to gather resources and support for themselves to be able to start up their new life outside the relationship. Examples of resources and support are money, finding shelters for domestic violence survivors, family and friends support, and gathering Important I.D. Documents.
3. The third stage entails taking action. This is where the person becomes firm in their decision and ready to make a move. Hence, Knowing and believing once they walk out they are free and ready to start the next chapter of their lives.
4. The fourth and final stage is maintenance. Being able to maintain the freedom they have attained for themselves. Sometimes people leave but find their way back to their abusive partner, hence preparation is very important. If one is prepared to leave they should also have a plan of sustaining their new life without their abusive partner. Moreover, therapy and having a good support system will keep the person from going back and be able to lead a happy and fulfilling life.

In conclusion, it is not as easy as it may seem but very doable. It takes a lot of courage to leave someone you love so dearly and at the same time have this serious and deep fear for the person. It takes a lot of energy, however one has to look at the bright side of life, seeing what life has to offer beyond the relationship. Seeing all the wonderful things to be achieved and gained out of life should be enough motivation to leave that abusive relationship and start afresh and find a love that is true, happy, and safe.

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