What motivates and shapes them
Childhood is one of the most important periods of the life of any being whether human or inanimate, it is usually the period of character solidification and the time when one forms his definition of “Life and existence” and these perspectives solidifies the person’s expectation in subsequent years, to think that some individuals endure instead of enjoy this period is mind troubling, to even think that some persons are perpetually proponents of such abuse is troubling.
This is why it is important to understand what motivates and shapes perpetrators of such heinous acts. Studies that appeared in peer review journals containing empirical data show that the motive behind various forms of domestic violence rallies around:
- Power/control
- Expression of Negative control
- Communication difficulty
- Retaliation
- Jealousy
Power/control for instance usually ends in the perpetrators of such acts in an excessive exhibition of anger, and when properly analyzed results show that such acts are highly sequel to experiences that the perpetrators themselves may not understand. Sometimes they occur as a result of a terrible experience like bullying in School, a form of parental abuse. When child abuse stems from the abuser’s sequel to anger as a result of terrible childhood abuse then you will agree that it is a form of a vicious cycle, the abuser was abused and is now an abuser, Payback time, is often the reason for child abuse.
It will take the expertise of a psychologist to help such perpetrators to identify the source of their abuse and then work on redemption by practicing self-forgiveness or forgiving any other party who had inflicted pain, or abuse. Secondly, the persons must be taught effective ways of managing situations that lead them to physical abuse by mastering conditions that trigger actions will help the person to better manage such reoccurrence.
Child abuse may be one of the most ungodly acts but the abusers themselves, should be properly diagnosed, 80-90% of the time, they are also in dear need of help, they just don’t know it yet.
Written by, Fwangshak ishaku ( precious Rubies volunteer)
